Bonus children (also known as stepchildren) and estate planning

Bonus children - a term I learned from a dear friend who clearly loves her stepchildren as her own - and estate planning.
Bonus children - a term I learned from a dear friend who clearly loves her stepchildren as her own - and estate planning.

I have a dear friend who refers to her stepchildren as her bonus children and I think it is a beautiful way to describe a family with children from a former relationship and so I have adopted this term here.  Many clients form new relationships with bonus children-- that is, a family where one or both spouses have children from a previous relationship. Estate planning for these families can present unique challenges. It’s challenging to combine the interests of a current spouse and any mutual children with the desire to provide for one's children of a previous relationship.

Hopefully, the children of the prior relationship are an integral and loving part of the new family relationship, looked upon and treated by both spouses as if mutual children. However, there may be estate-planning issues about the bonus children and the new spouse, which could raise a number of concerns. For example, usually spouses leave their assets to each other first and then the children after both spouses are deceased.  If all assets are left to the new spouse, the prior children may not be provided for, as the deceased spouse would have wished, since there is no legal obligation to support stepchildren. In addition, the surviving spouse may, at his or her death, leave all the assets to a new partner or his or her own children, to the exclusion of the children of the first spouse to die. On the other hand, if assets are left for the prior children at the death of their parent, there may not be sufficient assets remaining to provide for the current spouse or family.

Even with a harmonious family with bonus children, lack of planning may lead to unforeseen difficulties. In cases where death occurs without a will or trust, statutory intestacy rules may remove from the current marriage up to one half of the deceased spouse's estate and give it to the children from the previous marriage, even if the prior children are all grown and in less need of the assets than the spouse and minor children of the current marriage. If the prior children are minors, an ex-spouse may gain control of the assets. Finally, there just may not be enough assets available to adequately provide for the needs of all the members of the family.

Estate planning is an excellent way to create clarity in the family of bonus-children partners – with the couple agreeing to and spelling out what goes to whom - when.  At a minimum, each spouse should have a Will. Otherwise, assets may eventually (upon the death of the second spouse) be distributed in a manner contrary to what the parties intended (the old third-party interloper scenario comes to mind).

A more proactive approach is to use a trust to provide for the surviving spouse, and still protect a portion of the assets for the children of a prior marriage. This type of trust is known as a Qualified Terminable Interest Property (QTIP) trust. Property passing to a QTIP trust is eligible for the marital deduction, so the property is not taxed at the death of the deceased spouse, leaving the entire amount available for the surviving spouse’s support. Such a trust can generate income for the benefit of the surviving spouse during his or her lifetime. At the death of the surviving spouse, those assets could then be distributed among the mutual and/or prior children pursuant to the wishes of the previously deceased spouse.

If the children from the previous marriage are young, after the death of the surviving spouse, the assets from the QTIP Trust can be held in a further trust for the children, under the control of an independent trustee, to ensure that the assets do not fall under the control of an ex-spouse.

It is not uncommon for a client with a much younger spouse to create benefits for the children from the prior marriage by purchasing life insurance. In such a case, rather than requiring the children to wait many years until the death of their step-parent to receive benefits, the client purchases a life insurance policy that is made payable to the children so they receive those cash benefits immediately upon the client’s death. Having the policy owned by the children (or perhaps even better, by an Insurance Trust for their benefit) and funding the purchase over time by making gifts to the children or the Trust can even provide those benefits without any transfer tax!

Other techniques are also available to balance benefits passing to a new spouse with benefits for the children of a previous relationship. Marital agreements are important planning tools, and contractual agreements to name beneficiaries or make a will are also used to ensure long term planning for bonus children when as we all know we can’t predict our futures.  With careful consideration, estate planning for the blended family can provide orderly, equitable and compassionate distribution of estate assets, while also minimizing or eliminating confusion or even animosity between the bonus family, both here and now; and upon the death of a spouse in relation to the surviving beneficiaries.


 If you have questions about these estate planning tools give me a call or shoot me an email or if you have a friend with bonus children please share!